I have heard many times from my husband that I don’t listen. I interrupt. I change subject. You know the dog in Up? That is me.
Actually, a lot of the time I am listening, it’s just my brain goes really fast and I think of something else connected or something not and
I thought when I first went to meetings that I did well to share. Well actually I have learnt more from actually shutting the hell up and just listening. There is such wisdom in the room and there is me going BLA BLA I FEEL BAD I DRANK TOO MUCH. I know, I’m totally OK to vent there, but for me, learning to listen is not natural. Or at least starting quiet, not interrupting…so as I do not have to wear the cone of shame.
I don’t mean pretend to listen either, and actually mentally work out what is for dinner next week.
I mean really listen and look for the similarities in people’s stories rather than the differences to mine.
To be a positive member of a community really does take you to use skills that you may not have polished much during your adult life, and ones that need working at.
Think about it, I know I will be and trying to take this wisdom with me into my life. Anyway- in true deadpan style, let’s let Doug finish this post with a joke: